How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): You Bedda WURK!!

Titus 2:4-5

New Living Translation (NLT)

4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

We are still in verse 5 y’all! It’s gonna be a minute so just hang on. We are gonna squeeze this turnip dry :-)

We are past the heart and mind (live wisely and be pure) of a wife. Now we are on to the duties. “To work in their homes”, this thing right here is about to get real for some single women and wives, so hold on tight….

Work In Their Homes - One thing I have noticed as of late is the lack of “domestication” in the homes of women. With the convenience of fast food – women rarely cook or know how to! The dependence on fast food has led to severely obese families. Our children are most affected. It’s affecting the health of our men as well. Many of them are slow and sluggish. How can the protector of your home be slow and sluggish?? And as a whole, we are experiencing diseases at alarming rates that some our ancestors had never had to experience. And, we all know that everyone loves a home cooked meal. That’s why we can’t wait for holidays to roll around. We have got to go back to the time where cooking at home wasn’t a bother, but a way to nourish our families – and spend time together instead of rushing here and there. If you can’t cook, find someone who can and let them teach you – heck, get a cookbook. Simple math and reading and following directions are needed though. So make sure you can definitely do that. I'm always afraid of women who say that can't follow recipes - that means you aren't all that great at simple directions. Please, work on that.

Work In Their Homes - Then we have women that don’t know the first thing about cleaning. Now granted, I must admit, I HATE to clean. I would rather watch paint dry, but I do it. I may not have a June Cleaver house, but I don’t have my children and husband afraid to sit on the floor or couch. My feet don’t stick to the floors when I walk. My bed sheets don’t have “body stains”…you know, that one really dark stain from where you lay down and it’s there b/c you haven’t changed your sheets in like three months? Oh, and the first sign of a bug and the whole house is going through a massive cleaning. 

Unfortunately, there are women who feel like it’s ok to live this way – “Hoarders” comes to mind, and some of these Facebook selfies do too. Let me tell you something, if this is you, please understand that YOU may be comfortable with YOUR dirt, but others don’t want to be subject to that mess. And if you have children, you are teaching them that it’s ok to live life in a pig sty. OUCH! This may hurt, but it’s the truth. No man wants to come home, step over clothes, toys, your bras, have to push stuff off the couch to have 3 inches of space to sit. No man (or child) should be subject to walk in your bathroom with your “feminine products” in full view, and afraid that something is going to jump out of your toilet.

The Word tells us to work in our homes. This doesn’t mean you have to be a stay at home wife, but it does mean that you need to take pride in what the Lord allowed you to have, and keep it clean. Even though some men are slobs, the truth of the matter is, some men actually cherish coming home after a hard day to a clean and peaceful home – and you should too!

Work In Your Home – Another thought about “working in the home”. In order to work at something, you must be involved and engaged. I want you to listen very carefully ladies….if you want to be a GODLY wife and you want this marriage to last…you CANNOT spend all your time at the club, in the streets, with your girls on vacation every other week, and giving attention everywhere else but to your home! I'm not saying be a home-body. But you do need to be available to your home and husband. We know the logical reasons why – you can’t live a single life if you want to be happily married. But let’s think about the more complicated reasons why.

You are your husband’s help mate. How can you be of any help when you are run down from kickin' it until 2am – shuttin' the club down? How can you be of any help to HIM when you spend your free time kickin’ it with your girls? How can you be of any help to him when you are out garnering and giving attention to others and he’s home – alone? Want to know why some men cheat? The main reason is because they don’t have a regenerated heart in Christ, so they don't know how to love their wives properly without a divided mind and heart. But a lot of time it’s because the “other woman” is intriguing and showing him attention that he can't find in YOU because you are not there. You are not there physically, emotionally, mentally….sexually. You aren’t available to him. You must work in YOUR home. And if you are doing all of this and he still cheats, know that you have done what the Lord has asked of you, and He will deal with your husband in due time. The word promises that.

Be involved and engaged in your home. If things aren’t working out, don’t emotionally detach. If you have bad habits, work on them BEFORE you get married. Work on working in your home before you bring another into it (or he brings you into his). If you are already married and some of these things are hitting home – it’s not too late. Maybe the Lord allowed me to write this so that you can change. Remember, the opposite of God’s wisdom will always lead to destruction. Make sure you follow the Lord’s wisdom – it will never lead you wrong. WORK IN YOUR HOME.

Let's discuss! :-)

Addendum:

Some of you may think I'm way off the mark here. That your husband/man doesn't feel this way. Here is something that I know - the word is true. And I would venture to say, it may not be that he is "fine" with it, but just has come to accept this is the way it's going to be. That's not being "fine" with it, that's defeat. Our jobs are not to defeat our men, but to lift them up. I would encourage you to have an honest conversation with your husband/man about this. See how he feels and where you can improve as being his help mate. You'd be surprised at what you learn through honest and open communication with NO maniuplation.