How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Sub-WHAT? The "S" Word....

Titus 2:4-5

New Living Translation (NLT)

4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

 

"Do good and be submissive to their husbands." My how I want to spend about five weeks breaking this down. But I ain’t got that kinda time….So I am going to do my best in pulling out the lil nuggets in here. Satan has single handedly convinced many women everywhere that this is an archaic lie and anyone who follows it is a fool – hence the feminist movement that has destroyed more homes that you can shake a stick at.

Do good. Ladies…DO GOOD! I looked up what the “internet dictionary” had to say about “do good”…here is what it said: 

1.act virtuously, especially by helping others.

2.make a helpful contribution to a situation.

Looked up Strong’s definition in the concordance and this is what it said:

II. of good constitution or nature

III. useful, salutary

IV. good, pleasant, agreeable, joyful, happy

V. excellent, distinguished

VI. upright, honourable

 

So, here we have two definitions of “do good” – the command for a wife. And both definitions are what I believe to be spot on, and connects us directly to being “submissive” to our husbands. Now, most people hear the word submissive and think “Don’t no man own me, I’m my OWN person.” And I say to you, you are not ready to be married in a GODLY marriage. That thought was solidified recently through this horrible feminist movement and goes directly against scripture….let’s explore:

Matthew 19:4-6

New Living Translation (NLT)4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’[a]” 5 And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’[b] 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

Now, Jesus Himself said that. You can’t argue with what’s written in Red. You are not yourself any longer. When you stand with this man and vow under God’s name, you agree to be ONE with him.

You also agree with God’s mandate that the man should be the head of his wife and home. Yes, that is what you agree to. Forget the sickness and health part…you are agreeing to submit to this man’s leadership – so you better think twice before you say “yes” when he pops the question.

Ephesians 5:21-24

New Living Translation (NLT)Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands 

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

So, what does it mean to be submissive to your husband? Well, let’s talk about what it’s not. It in no way means be a doormat. By all means, if this man is beating you from slavery to freedom, you need to get out of that situation. If he is leading you astray from the Father, that is not to be submitted to – for YOU will give account for your soul.  If you know the Father then you know it is better to serve Him than man. I AM NOT TELLING YOU TO GET A DIVORCE MARRIED LADIES – the bible even gives instruction on what to do as a wife of an unbelieving husband – and divorce isn’t the answer (1 Peter 3:1-2, 1 Corinthians 7:13-17). But, what I am saying is that you don’t have to submit to following a false Christ because your husband is leading you there. It also does not mean that you don’t have an opinion or a voice in your home. You ARE allowed to have an opinion. God gave you a brain to think and to HELP him in the decision making process, as well as keep him on track with his life and calling.

What it DOES mean is this:

 

• You are NOT weak when you submit to your husband. What you are doing is allowing him to walk in the calling that God has called him to as the leader of your home.
• Your opinions count, but it is HE that ultimately makes the decisions in the home and you are not to go behind his back and supersede those decisions. If they are decisions you don’t agree with, you go to who HE is to submit to, the LORD – not your mom or your girlfriends – in prayer. Ask the Lord to help your husband make a GODLY decision, see things from your perspective, make the decision that is best for the family, lead you to someone that you BOTH can speak with that has godly wise counsel – whatever you need, but you are not to overstep your husband.
• You need to make sure that you love and have submitted to CHRIST first so that you can properly submit to your husband. Like submission to Christ is necessary, but totally voluntary, so is submission to your husband. If you can’t submit to Christ, there is no way you will accomplish the task of trusting your husband, a mere man, in letting him lead, guide, and protect you. Just like you aren’t an abused slave in Christ, but a servant of the Kingdom, so is it to be the same way in your home. You should CHOOSE to submit – not be forced.
• You have grown to understand that your submission isn’t because your husband deserves it, but because you love the Lord your God and you want to please and obey Him and His word.

Then, the word says if you can accomplish these things, you will not bring shame on the Lord and His word. Think of it this way – you will be looked upon as one who not only honors and loves her husband, respects his role of a man and leader, but you will be looked upon as a child of God who truly knows and understands how to follow His word and love Him as well.

Let’s discuss!