How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Don't Be A Drip

Colossians 4:6
New Living Translation (NLT)
6 Let your conversation be gracious and attractive[a] so that you will have the right response for everyone.







Drip….drip….drip……

UGH, that is THE most annoying sound ever. Especially if it’s at night and everything is quiet. No

matter how hard you try and block it out, it’s there. That noise….nothing will stop the noise. No amount of ear blockage…no matter how far away you go to your “happy place”, it’s there. Go to another room…and for some reason, you hear it. And even when you think it has stopped, the dripping has gotten slower, you STILL hear it in your head…..

Welcome to the world of men with a nagging wife. Ladies, let me tell you som’. There is NOTHING more nerve wrecking than a nagging wife. I’M not even a man and I HATE to see a wife nag their husband. It gets my goat.

Let’s look at what King Solomon said:

Proverbs 21:9
New Living Translation (NLT)
9 It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.

Proverbs 27:15
New Living Translation (NLT)
15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day.

Proverbs 21:19
New Living Translation (NLT)
19 It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

Proverbs 25:24
New Living Translation (NLT)
24 It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.

Proverbs 19:13
New Living Translation (NLT)
13 A foolish child[a] is a calamity to a father; a quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping.

There is no faster way to get your husband to put you on mute than you nagging in his ear. I mean, really – there is no faster way, that I know of anyway.

Ma'am he does not hear you.

The word says that a man would rather live in a desert….think about that. You ever been to the beach on a 90+ degree day? Remember how icky it felt being both sweaty and sandy? Your excessive thirst? Sun burn and constant fanning? I don’t know about you, but as much as I like hot weather, I would be MISERABLE. And there’s water to cool off in near by! Now, the word says a man would rather live ….no scratch that…it is BETTER to live in a desert ALONE – not the beach…but the desert…than to have a nagging wife. OUCH!

The word says it is better to live in the corner of an attic than to live with a nagging wife. Sheesh…the word is telling this man, forget the house that you contribute to. Forget the luxuries of a toilet, kitchen, sitting comfortably in your couch – go live in the attic. And not just the attic, but the CORNER where the cob webs are and live there rather than live with that nagging woman you married.

Yes, that’s how much God is annoyed with a nagging wife – that He would inspired those words to have men steer clear of women like that. How does that make you as a nagging “Christian” wife feel? That the God we serve is SO annoyed with you that He would inspire those words and instructions?

“But, Deidra, if only he would do what I said the first time”

Well, hold on Eve Delilah Jr. (Some of y'all will catch that name, others need to do a lil more bible study). If we look at our history, that’s what got us in trouble in the first place – telling a man what to do. Now, I am not saying we don’t have a voice – but you have to remember, there is a spirit behind controlling and manipulating women. It’s as real as the sun is bright. And that spirit causes serious destruction in a marriage.

So, what do you do? Glad you asked.

We LOVE them.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New Living Translation (NLT) 

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

We live HOLY before them.

1 Peter 3:1-2
New Living Translation (NLT) 

Wives
3 In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.

We learn WISDOM on when to speak.

Ecclesiastes 10:12
English Standard Version (ESV) 

12 The words of a wise man's mouth win him favor, but the lips of a fool consume him.

Proverbs 12:25
English Standard Version (ESV) 

25 Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

Ephesians 4:29
English Standard Version (ESV) 

29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Ecclesiastes 5:2
English Standard Version (ESV) 

2 Be not rash with your mouth, nor let your heart be hasty to utter a word before God, for God is in heaven and you are on earth. Therefore let your words be few.

That’s it. You want something done, ask…be quiet. Then use wisdom on how to ask – not demand and demean – again. You would be surprised at how wonderfully this works. How much peace it brings to your home. I don’t know if my husband ever would consider me a nagger. I would hope not. I have learned the art of asking and being quiet. He often surprises me with “Hey, I haven’t forgotten about….I plan to get on it as soon as….”. I have found that my requests aren’t forgotten, they just aren’t in good timing. And I have come to accept that. I mean really – half the stuff I ask about aren’t deal breakers, you know? It’s really not that serious.

So, ladies, give the men a break. Don’t be that dripping faucet. Don’t be that nagging rain drop. Don’t make your husband wish he lived in the attic in a corner instead of at home with you. How awful that would be to know that your husband would rather live away from you, than in peace WITH you.

Let’s discuss!