How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Sub-WHAT? The "S" Word....

Titus 2:4-5

New Living Translation (NLT)

4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

 

"Do good and be submissive to their husbands." My how I want to spend about five weeks breaking this down. But I ain’t got that kinda time….So I am going to do my best in pulling out the lil nuggets in here. Satan has single handedly convinced many women everywhere that this is an archaic lie and anyone who follows it is a fool – hence the feminist movement that has destroyed more homes that you can shake a stick at.

Do good. Ladies…DO GOOD! I looked up what the “internet dictionary” had to say about “do good”…here is what it said: 

1.act virtuously, especially by helping others.

2.make a helpful contribution to a situation.

Looked up Strong’s definition in the concordance and this is what it said:

II. of good constitution or nature

III. useful, salutary

IV. good, pleasant, agreeable, joyful, happy

V. excellent, distinguished

VI. upright, honourable

 

So, here we have two definitions of “do good” – the command for a wife. And both definitions are what I believe to be spot on, and connects us directly to being “submissive” to our husbands. Now, most people hear the word submissive and think “Don’t no man own me, I’m my OWN person.” And I say to you, you are not ready to be married in a GODLY marriage. That thought was solidified recently through this horrible feminist movement and goes directly against scripture….let’s explore:

Matthew 19:4-6

New Living Translation (NLT)4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’[a]” 5 And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’[b] 6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”

Now, Jesus Himself said that. You can’t argue with what’s written in Red. You are not yourself any longer. When you stand with this man and vow under God’s name, you agree to be ONE with him.

You also agree with God’s mandate that the man should be the head of his wife and home. Yes, that is what you agree to. Forget the sickness and health part…you are agreeing to submit to this man’s leadership – so you better think twice before you say “yes” when he pops the question.

Ephesians 5:21-24

New Living Translation (NLT)Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands 

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

So, what does it mean to be submissive to your husband? Well, let’s talk about what it’s not. It in no way means be a doormat. By all means, if this man is beating you from slavery to freedom, you need to get out of that situation. If he is leading you astray from the Father, that is not to be submitted to – for YOU will give account for your soul.  If you know the Father then you know it is better to serve Him than man. I AM NOT TELLING YOU TO GET A DIVORCE MARRIED LADIES – the bible even gives instruction on what to do as a wife of an unbelieving husband – and divorce isn’t the answer (1 Peter 3:1-2, 1 Corinthians 7:13-17). But, what I am saying is that you don’t have to submit to following a false Christ because your husband is leading you there. It also does not mean that you don’t have an opinion or a voice in your home. You ARE allowed to have an opinion. God gave you a brain to think and to HELP him in the decision making process, as well as keep him on track with his life and calling.

What it DOES mean is this:

 

• You are NOT weak when you submit to your husband. What you are doing is allowing him to walk in the calling that God has called him to as the leader of your home.
• Your opinions count, but it is HE that ultimately makes the decisions in the home and you are not to go behind his back and supersede those decisions. If they are decisions you don’t agree with, you go to who HE is to submit to, the LORD – not your mom or your girlfriends – in prayer. Ask the Lord to help your husband make a GODLY decision, see things from your perspective, make the decision that is best for the family, lead you to someone that you BOTH can speak with that has godly wise counsel – whatever you need, but you are not to overstep your husband.
• You need to make sure that you love and have submitted to CHRIST first so that you can properly submit to your husband. Like submission to Christ is necessary, but totally voluntary, so is submission to your husband. If you can’t submit to Christ, there is no way you will accomplish the task of trusting your husband, a mere man, in letting him lead, guide, and protect you. Just like you aren’t an abused slave in Christ, but a servant of the Kingdom, so is it to be the same way in your home. You should CHOOSE to submit – not be forced.
• You have grown to understand that your submission isn’t because your husband deserves it, but because you love the Lord your God and you want to please and obey Him and His word.

Then, the word says if you can accomplish these things, you will not bring shame on the Lord and His word. Think of it this way – you will be looked upon as one who not only honors and loves her husband, respects his role of a man and leader, but you will be looked upon as a child of God who truly knows and understands how to follow His word and love Him as well.

Let’s discuss!

How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): You Bedda WURK!!

Titus 2:4-5

New Living Translation (NLT)

4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

We are still in verse 5 y’all! It’s gonna be a minute so just hang on. We are gonna squeeze this turnip dry :-)

We are past the heart and mind (live wisely and be pure) of a wife. Now we are on to the duties. “To work in their homes”, this thing right here is about to get real for some single women and wives, so hold on tight….

Work In Their Homes - One thing I have noticed as of late is the lack of “domestication” in the homes of women. With the convenience of fast food – women rarely cook or know how to! The dependence on fast food has led to severely obese families. Our children are most affected. It’s affecting the health of our men as well. Many of them are slow and sluggish. How can the protector of your home be slow and sluggish?? And as a whole, we are experiencing diseases at alarming rates that some our ancestors had never had to experience. And, we all know that everyone loves a home cooked meal. That’s why we can’t wait for holidays to roll around. We have got to go back to the time where cooking at home wasn’t a bother, but a way to nourish our families – and spend time together instead of rushing here and there. If you can’t cook, find someone who can and let them teach you – heck, get a cookbook. Simple math and reading and following directions are needed though. So make sure you can definitely do that. I'm always afraid of women who say that can't follow recipes - that means you aren't all that great at simple directions. Please, work on that.

Work In Their Homes - Then we have women that don’t know the first thing about cleaning. Now granted, I must admit, I HATE to clean. I would rather watch paint dry, but I do it. I may not have a June Cleaver house, but I don’t have my children and husband afraid to sit on the floor or couch. My feet don’t stick to the floors when I walk. My bed sheets don’t have “body stains”…you know, that one really dark stain from where you lay down and it’s there b/c you haven’t changed your sheets in like three months? Oh, and the first sign of a bug and the whole house is going through a massive cleaning. 

Unfortunately, there are women who feel like it’s ok to live this way – “Hoarders” comes to mind, and some of these Facebook selfies do too. Let me tell you something, if this is you, please understand that YOU may be comfortable with YOUR dirt, but others don’t want to be subject to that mess. And if you have children, you are teaching them that it’s ok to live life in a pig sty. OUCH! This may hurt, but it’s the truth. No man wants to come home, step over clothes, toys, your bras, have to push stuff off the couch to have 3 inches of space to sit. No man (or child) should be subject to walk in your bathroom with your “feminine products” in full view, and afraid that something is going to jump out of your toilet.

The Word tells us to work in our homes. This doesn’t mean you have to be a stay at home wife, but it does mean that you need to take pride in what the Lord allowed you to have, and keep it clean. Even though some men are slobs, the truth of the matter is, some men actually cherish coming home after a hard day to a clean and peaceful home – and you should too!

Work In Your Home – Another thought about “working in the home”. In order to work at something, you must be involved and engaged. I want you to listen very carefully ladies….if you want to be a GODLY wife and you want this marriage to last…you CANNOT spend all your time at the club, in the streets, with your girls on vacation every other week, and giving attention everywhere else but to your home! I'm not saying be a home-body. But you do need to be available to your home and husband. We know the logical reasons why – you can’t live a single life if you want to be happily married. But let’s think about the more complicated reasons why.

You are your husband’s help mate. How can you be of any help when you are run down from kickin' it until 2am – shuttin' the club down? How can you be of any help to HIM when you spend your free time kickin’ it with your girls? How can you be of any help to him when you are out garnering and giving attention to others and he’s home – alone? Want to know why some men cheat? The main reason is because they don’t have a regenerated heart in Christ, so they don't know how to love their wives properly without a divided mind and heart. But a lot of time it’s because the “other woman” is intriguing and showing him attention that he can't find in YOU because you are not there. You are not there physically, emotionally, mentally….sexually. You aren’t available to him. You must work in YOUR home. And if you are doing all of this and he still cheats, know that you have done what the Lord has asked of you, and He will deal with your husband in due time. The word promises that.

Be involved and engaged in your home. If things aren’t working out, don’t emotionally detach. If you have bad habits, work on them BEFORE you get married. Work on working in your home before you bring another into it (or he brings you into his). If you are already married and some of these things are hitting home – it’s not too late. Maybe the Lord allowed me to write this so that you can change. Remember, the opposite of God’s wisdom will always lead to destruction. Make sure you follow the Lord’s wisdom – it will never lead you wrong. WORK IN YOUR HOME.

Let's discuss! :-)

Addendum:

Some of you may think I'm way off the mark here. That your husband/man doesn't feel this way. Here is something that I know - the word is true. And I would venture to say, it may not be that he is "fine" with it, but just has come to accept this is the way it's going to be. That's not being "fine" with it, that's defeat. Our jobs are not to defeat our men, but to lift them up. I would encourage you to have an honest conversation with your husband/man about this. See how he feels and where you can improve as being his help mate. You'd be surprised at what you learn through honest and open communication with NO maniuplation.

How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Verse 5 - It's All About The Heart And Mind

Titus 2:4-5
New Living Translation (NLT)
4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

Ah, we've made it to verse 5! Finally, right? Verse 5 is very interesting – it shows how we are to LIVE as a wife. We are going to camp out here for a good while. And, I will say this, for some, just looking at this verse seems so “archaic”. I mean you tell some wives this now days, and they are going to give you a STRONG side eye. But there is a lot of merit to this verse, it holds a lot of wisdom and it would cure many of the “ills” in our society if we had stuck to it…let’s explore this in contrast with what the world has taught us, this too will be broken up into parts….

The word says to these young wives: Live wise and BE pure. We all know biblically speaking, true wisdom starts with the fear of God. Once you reverence Him for Who He is, and respect his power, He will make the choice to allow you to partake in His wisdom. And according to the word, He gives it to you liberally if you ask. Wives need to live in wisdom – it’s wisdom that lets you know how and when to approach your husband in certain matters. It’s wisdom that helps you know when to save “a little extra something” to have when times get rough. If you want a great example of a “wise wife” look no further than the decisions that the Proverbs 31 woman made. If we live in wisdom, we not only can avoid bad situations, but also care for our homes and husbands well.

The word also says BE pure. Wives are in a perpetual state of “being” – God created us “to be” for our husbands. If we go back to Genesis, we see that Eve was created “to BE” for Adam. She was “to BE” his help mate so that he would not be alone. Being pure is more than just acting like it. You can tell when a wife is acting the part of being pure. Pure in this case is defined in Strong’s Concordance as: pure from carnality, chaste, modest. Sometimes to make a point, it’s best to take the opposite. So, what does a carnal, unchaste and immodest wife look like? Let’s go to scripture:

She is manipulative: Judges 14:15-17
Then it came about on the fourth day that they said to Samson's wife, "Entice your husband, so that he will tell us the riddle, or we will burn you and your father's house with fire. Have you invited us to impoverish us? Is this not so?" Samson's wife wept before him and said, "You only hate me, and you do not love me; you have propounded a riddle to the sons of my people, and have not told it to me." And he said to her, "Behold, I have not told it to my father or mother; so should I tell you?" However she wept before him seven days while their feast lasted. And on the seventh day he told her because she pressed him so hard. She then told the riddle to the sons of her people.

Crying and throwing fits when she can’t get what she wants. And also willing to sell her own husband down the river for selfish gain.

She is lustful: Genesis 39:6-15
Joseph was a very handsome and well-built young man, 7 and Potiphar’s wife soon began to look at him lustfully. “Come and sleep with me,” she demanded.
8 But Joseph refused. “Look,” he told her, “my master trusts me with everything in his entire household. 9 No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.”
10 She kept putting pressure on Joseph day after day, but he refused to sleep with her, and he kept out of her way as much as possible. 11 One day, however, no one else was around when he went in to do his work. 12 She came and grabbed him by his cloak, demanding, “Come on, sleep with me!” Joseph tore himself away, but he left his cloak in her hand as he ran from the house.
13 When she saw that she was holding his cloak and he had fled, 14 she called out to her servants. Soon all the men came running. “Look!” she said. “My husband has brought this Hebrew slave here to make fools of us! He came into my room to rape me, but I screamed. 15 When he heard me scream, he ran outside and got away, but he left his cloak behind with me.”

The love of her husband isn’t enough. Other men catch her eye, she’s sexually greedy, selfish, and must have more.

She is disrespectful: Proverbs 7:19-27
19 for my husband is not home. He’s away on a long trip. 20 He has taken a wallet full of money with him and won’t return until later this month.[a]” 21 So she seduced him with her pretty speech and enticed him with her flattery.
22 He followed her at once,like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap, 23 awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart. He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life.
24 So listen to me, my sons, and pay attention to my words.25 Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her. Don’t wander down her wayward path.26 For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims. 27 Her house is the road to the grave.[b]Her bedroom is the den of death.

While away from the watch of her husband, she uses her time to invite other men into their “chambers”/lives and give them the attention that should be saved for her husband. "Office husbands" come to mind, as well as just regular old affairs both sexual and emotional.

She is discouraging: Job 2:9
Then his wife said to him, "Do you still hold fast your integrity? Curse God and die!"

Instead of helping and encouraging him seek the face of God, she demeans him and pulls him away from the only Source of power that there is.

She conspires to do evil in the Lord’s eyes with him: Acts 5:1-2
But a man named Ananias, with his wife Sapphira, sold a piece of property, and kept back some of the price for himself, with his wife's full knowledge, and bringing a portion of it, he laid it at the apostles' feet.

Instead of using wisdom and being a source of reason, she knowingly sins (and makes a bad decision) with him causing both of their downfalls.

These are just a few examples, the bible holds many. We can plainly see how doing the OPPOSITE of these things will help us keep a happy home and be pure in heart. But what does the world tell us?

“Your husband doesn't value you if he doesn't listen to you when YOU need him”
“It's ok to look, but don't touch!”
“Go ahead and wear that low cut shirt and skinny jeans when you are out with your girls, a little attention is a good thing – You STILL got it girl!”.
"Go ahead and be emotional. You're allowed to be that way!"
"You are so much smarter than that buffoon that you married. Treat him like the kid he is instead of the man you want!"
See where I’m going with this? Many of these thoughts are a direct assault on our wisdom as a wife as well as the purity that we should have in our hearts.

One thing that we as godly wives must remember – wisdom and a pure heart can only come from loving (doing what HE says) the Father FIRST. Seek ye FIRST the kingdom of heaven and all things will be added unto you. If you are struggling with wisdom and how to apply it to your role as a wife, seek God. If you are struggling with purity – in thought and deed, seek God. If you have these “bad” habits before marriage, I will tell you this, you MUST seek Him for healing spiritually because changing is something that you will not be able to do on your own. If you like to dress showing your body now – you might stop for a minute after marriage, but that attention seeking behavior WILL come out in other ways. If you are manipulative now, you might think that you have it together UNTIL he disagrees with you and you want your way.

If you are this way and you ARE married. I strongly urge you to seek regeneration through serious repentance to God and seeking Him for the gift of salvation and renewal – first for your own soul and next for the sake of your marriage.

And for those wives who find this writing a "no-brainer" - I commend you and encourage you to continue to pray for godly wisdom and how to BE pure and a supportive wife. That prayer can't get prayed enough!

Wow! It’s no wonder that wisdom and purity are mention here first as a way to live – if you have that, the rest should come pretty easy!

Let’s discuss!

How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Learning And Understanding That Four Letter Word

Titus 2:4-5
New Living Translation (NLT)
4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

Yes, we are still in verse 4. There was just SO much there! But I think this will be the last one. Then we can move on the verse 5 (yay)! I want to again draw your attention to one word: "LOVE".

That word is thrown around a lot. "OMG! I just LOOOVE this scarf!" "Didn't you just LOVE that new dress? Girl, she is EVERYTHING!" "I know he beats me, but he LOVES me." See what I mean? This is a word that we must really be careful using.

Now, quick lesson. There are different types of love according to the bible.

1. Philos love. This is the "buddy-buddy" love. You love your best friend this way. You love your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ this way. Family members often share this kind of love. While it is strong, it is not the strongest type love. This love is created when there is a development of a relationship either because of shared experiences, kinship, etc. This love isn't driven by emotion, but CAN still be conditional. Anyone who knows what it's like to lose a best friend over a silly argument knows of this kind of love.
2. Eros love. This is better known as "erotic love" or "lustful love". It is not TRUE love, as this kind of love is only for self gratification (sexual in nature). This kind of love is conditional (as long as you make me feel good, we're cool; We don't need a relationship status, we are just friends with benefits!). This love is based solely off of how the person looks and makes us feel. This is the kind of love a man expresses to get in a girl's pants. As teenagers, we knew this love well - that crush, that puppy love. I'm often reminded of my mother who would say "Girl, you're not in love, you're in like!" And she was right. I was feeling a lustful love - not having to have sex, but loving the feeling of being with a boy who looked good and made me feel good and to be desired. This love will leave you lonely, confused, broken, and bitter (especially when uncommitted sex is involved). This love is the kind that leads to divorce. Many women fall for this kind of love and end up with dead end relationships and/or 4 babies with different daddies. Harsh, but true. 
3. Agape love. Now, we're talkin! This is unconditional love. This is the love that Christ Jesus has for His Church. This is the kind of love that we need to strive for in our marriages. This love fits the biblical definition of love: 

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New Living Translation (NLT)
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.         

I find it odd, but not so much, that the verse says that older women have to "train" the younger women to love their husbands.s You would think that if you're marrying him/married him, you love him right? Loving someone with agape love doesn't come easy. There are going to be some very dark nights and you can't be irritable. There's going to be disagreements, and you can't keep record of who was wrong or right. This kind of love is FULL of self denial - something that we as a society aren't used to. Eros love comes easy. Philo love comes easy. But Agape love, is love that you certainly have to learn and train yourself in.

So, ladies, I urge you - learn, know, and understand 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 well. Understand that marriage is not conditional in the eyes of God. Again, marriage is a reflection of His Son and the Church. It is an unconditional binding that lasts forever. He has mandated that we love our husbands, that we never give up on them, never lose faith in them and always stay hopeful so that our marriages will endure every single circumstance - even when in the beginning you think "nah buddy, see, this ain't gone work!", or he finally lets himself do the annoying stuff that you didn't know that he did, or he loses his job, or you find out he has another child about the same age as how long that you've been together - every circumstance. Learn that, know that, internalize that, live that.

Okay! On to verse 5 now. In the meantime, let's discuss!! :-D

How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): That ONE Word Makes A HUGE Difference

Titus 2:4-5New Living Translation (NLT)4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

More of verse 4....

I don't mean to bombard you, but I had to dive into this because now it's burning my chest (that's how I know when I HAVE to speak up about something smh).

I want to draw your attention to one small, but VERY important word: THEIR. Now, I want to to do some quick cross-referencing...remember, this is GODLY advice. Some stuff is going to sting, and other stuff is gonna get you mad or make you feel like it's "not that important". BUT GODLY WISDOM IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT. And the first step in a failing marriage is thinking that it's not....

Exodus 20:14New Living Translation (NLT)14 “You must not commit adultery.

Proverbs 6:32New Living Translation (NLT)32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool,for he destroys himself. <----I will venture and say for our purposes we can say "woman" and "she" and "herself" as well.

Matthew 5:28New Living Translation (NLT)28 But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Now, back to the word "THEIR". As we can see, the Lord takes the monogamy of marriage VERY seriously. Marriage is a direct reflection of the relationship of Christ Jesus and HIS CHURCH (which is why "other types" of marriages really don't make sense and aren't real, but I digress).

The author says train the younger women on how to love THEIR husbands. And look at the new standard that Christ set: If anyone even LOOKS at a woman (here for our purposes we can say "man" - it still applies) with lust they have already committed adultery. Do you ladies see that? If someone even LOOKS at another man with lust....ooooh yes, that even means in movies, in these so called "calendar pictures", on the street, on TV, and even in our MINDS - HELLO! YOU ma'am are already committing adultery. The Lord takes this commandment so seriously that it is even punishable by eternal separation (hell) from Him.

Your commitment to your husband is to. YOUR. husband. The reason this is so serious is because if you are able to divide your desire and share that with another man (even if that man doesn't know that you exist - like Idris Elba), you are willing to divide your heart and not only does that make you an unstable wife, it also makes you an unstable servant of the Lord. You want a stable marriage? First step, keep your eyes IN YO HEAD! Sure, you can acknowledge that someone is handsome. But when you step into the realm of getting hot flashes, dry mouth, and get to stuttering and what not - YOU ma'am need to repent. And I say that with SO much seriousness.

It's not just the act, it's the thought before the act that our enemy likes to play with. Don't allow it - AT ALL. If you know men are a weakness, you should NOT be getting married. If you are married, you should be seeking the Lord to change your desires for your husband only.

And also, for all you "church women" who are married. Please also be mindful that this passage says how to love YOUR husband....NOT your "Pastor". He has his OWN wife that should be tending to his needs. You are charged to care for your husband and your husband only. Love HIM, makes sure HE is safe and secure in his home. How about you fix HIS plate first at a church function and make HIM a plate to take home first? That is what is proper. You never take care of another man (especially if he is married) before you take care and spend time with your husband - I don't care who it is, unless it's Jesus the Christ Himself.

Shew, glad I got that off my chest  Let's discuss 

How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Where Do You Get Your Wisdom, Young Lady?

Well, I figure I'd start with this verse and do a lil bit at a time since I put it up in the last post.

Titus 2:4-5New Living Translation (NLT)4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[a] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

Let's look carefully at verse 4. There are some great gems and pearls of wisdom in there....

Ladies (just entering marriage or about to), where are you getting your wisdom? Here the word admonishes the older women to train you. The author of this verse is clearly speaking of older women IN the faith, and who know how to love their husband and children. They must have been successful in doing so or else he would have told the young women to find another source. 

So, PLEASE stop listening to Cosmo, Wendy Williams, OPRAH (who has NEVA been married), Steve Harvey, and others. Most of these entertainers are on their 2nd or 3rd marriages, are in failing relationships or have been in them. They clearly don't understand the strength needed to weather through the storms TOGETHER, or how to love their spouse to STAY married. And these entertainment books are just that - entertainment. Often times, they get you to focus on your selfish desires (what HE *neeeeds* to be doin or kick him to the curb), and on your self (You really don't need HIM, you COULD do this all by your self, and this is how). If it does talk about love, it's often conditional love, the "good times" love - where you see the couples laughing and hugging, and frolicking in the flowers. And while I hope marriage is that for you (joyful), please understand, not everyday will be that way. Which is why you NEED godly wisdom in how to persevere. 

So, my suggestion, please find a godly woman who is "successfully" married by GOD'S standards. One who knows how to keep her home together, who has been through tough situations and still came out with her husband's hand - faithfully. Get her in your corner, sit at her feet, listen to her wisdom. If you can't find her - hey, I'm here LOL...I'm not, gray hair old, but I have 13 years under my belt and have literally been through richer and poorer, sickness and health - and I'm not joking about any of that. But you really need to have a godly woman in your corner that you can go to and that you trust. 

OH and that's another thing - don't go around blabbing all your home business to these youngin's out here. NOPE - not even your best of friends, and not even yo MOMMA, UNLESS they are married with GODLY wisdom as well. Otherwise, you are asking for trouble.

I think that's all for right now. We will revisit more of Verse 4 as there is much more wisdom in that verse to talk about. But for now, if you have questions, if there are any married women with more wisdom, let's have a conversation 

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How To Be A GODLY Wife (Series): Introduction

So, I've done "WILTS", the 10 commandments, homeschooling tips....and now I'm feeling the need to talk with the young women just getting or about to be married. I'm talking to the ladies who want their relationships to last...who wants God's blessings, who even in tough times WANTS their marriages to stand strong through it all. Women who don't want to give up on their husbands or soon to be husbands. Women who want to learn how to raise and love their children in a loving and godly home. These next few stats are for you. And if there are ANY godly women out there that will like to chime in with their wisdom, please feel free to do so. We have ppl out there like "Tyrese" and "Steve Harvey" out there trying to give women advice, let's see what the MAKER of godly marriage has to say about it....

Titus 2:4-5
New Living Translation (NLT)
4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.